8 Ways to Tell Someone Is Jealous of You

For whatever reason Jealousy is more common then not. It seems to be from the people we care about the most- like our own family members or friends we've had for years. Their jealousy is toxic and can bring bad energy around you. sometimes their jealousy will be subtle, but often reveals itself through certain behaviors. Recognizing the signs can help you better understand someone's feelings and navigate your relationship with them. Some people just don't mean you any good and no matter how close you are to them- it's time to press the 'delete' button! They say friends are the family you choose and your blood family you have no choice but to deal with.. I believe that's the furthest from the truth! Family can go on your block list too- if their energy, demeanor and actions are not matching up to what it should- press the delete button on them too! Self-care caters to your needs not anyone elses. Here are 8 ways to tell if someone is jealous of you:

1. They Downplay Your Achievements

When you share your successes, a jealous person may dismiss them or act as though your accomplishments are not a big deal. They might say things like, "That’s nothing special," or "Anyone could have done that." Or simply not acknowledge your success at all.

2. They Give Backhanded Compliments

Jealousy often comes out in the form of passive-aggressive remarks disguised as a compliment or praise. For example, they might say, "You look great for someone who doesn’t work out much," which feels more like an insult than a compliment. Or "wow your hair looks great short even though you have a fat face."

3. They Try to One-Up You

A jealous person may always want to shift the attention back to themselves. Any attention you get that they seem is too much they will do something very exaggerated to turn the attention back on them. If you share exciting news, they might immediately follow with something they’ve done, that they think is better, just to outshine you. Everything is competition even when it should be a celebration.

4. They’re Overly Critical

Criticism from someone jealous of you often feels unnecessary or overly harsh. They might nitpick at your decisions, appearance, or work to make you doubt yourself and bring you down. They will spend more time telling you what's wrong with something your wearing rather then tell you what you could do to fix it. Every moment they can get to throw in a slight dig they take it.

5. They Mimic You

Imitation is sometimes a sign of admiration, but if someone begins copying your style, habits, or ideas excessively, it could be driven by jealousy as they attempt to compete or share the spotlight. I personally believe these types of individuals are very dangerous. Don't allow these mentally unstable types into your friend circle. (I know y'all seen the movie single white female. If not google it.)

6. They Celebrate Your Failures

A jealous individual may seem unusually happy when things don’t go your way. They might subtly express satisfaction at your setbacks because it makes them feel better about their own insecurities. These types smile inwardly and sometimes directly in your face. If you catch someone laughing or smiling at the time you give bad news or your going through something- clear sign of what type of heart this person has, and every reason to weed these types out of your life.

7. They Exclude You

Jealous people will lie and say they told you about an event or plan- so that you will intentionally miss out. Jealous people will manipulate or gaslight to make you feel bad for a wrong they did. Jealousy can cause people to act unfairly, such as leaving you out of plans and conversations intentionally .This can be their way of trying to make you feel like your not needed. These tactics are to make you feel isolated or less important.

8. They Gossip About You

Someone jealous of you might spread rumors or talk behind your back to tarnish your reputation. This is often an attempt to shift attention away from your successes and focus on negativity. These are also the people who create a problem that your having, just to come back around to fix it. They do this to play the hero in everyone's eyes and to put the positive attention on them- while everyone seems to be side-eying you.

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