It's time to date yourself!

Dating Yourself- Get Your Ass Up and Do It: 30-Day Challenge

Looking for a fresh start? The "Dating Yourself and Getting Your Ass Up to Do It 30-Day Challenge" is your wake-up call to prioritize YOU. Think of this as a commitment to rediscover your passions, build self-confidence, and create a fulfilling life that doesn’t depend on anyone else to feel complete. This challenge is your opportunity to show up for yourself—no excuses, no procrastination, just action.

The idea is simple: over the next 30 days, dedicate time daily to connect with yourself, explore your interests, and take intentional steps towards a happier and more empowered version of you. Whether it’s planning a solo coffee date, journaling about your goals, or taking that fitness class you’ve been avoiding, this challenge is about self-love in action. It’s not just about treating yourself—it’s about holding yourself accountable to grow, evolve, and thrive.

Ready to get started? No one knows how to love you better than YOU. So, get your ass up and make the next 30 days about showing up for yourself like never before. You deserve it.

Dating yourself: Get your ass up & do it! (30 day challenge)

Why You Should Try Dating Yourself

If you've never dated yourself, give it a try! As people, we naturally seek companionship and intimacy. Many of us feel the need to be close to someone else to feel loved, secure, or even just content. However, the truth is, nothing in life—especially relationships—will truly last if you don't take the time to know and love yourself first. Spending time alone is not about isolation; it’s about building a deeper understanding of your own needs, desires, and values. Learning to enjoy your own company can lead to better self-confidence, healthier relationships, and a stronger sense of independence. It's simply best practice to know who the fuck you are as a person; so explore a new hobby, or simply spend quiet moments reflecting on who you are. You just might discover that you’re the best company you’ve ever had! People can always disappoint us- You should never disappoint yourself.

Why Do We Know Celebrities Better Than Ourselves?

It’s crazy when you think about it. We can rattle off every movie our favorite actor starred in, or name every platinum song from our go-to singer. We know their birthdays, their hobbies, their relationship drama—and yet, when it comes to ourselves, we’re practically strangers. Think about it: we walk into a room, and what’s the first thing we do? (We watch other people) We immulate them.. We wear their hairstyles, their clothes & brands... we even wear their names and argue with friends over them. We scroll social media to see what's trending or what’s new with them, but we rarely pause to ask, “What’s new with me?” It’s not just ironic; it’s downright unsettling. Shouldn’t we be the experts of our own lives? Maybe it’s time to look inward, to know ourselves as deeply as we know the celebrities we idolize. After all, no one’s going to live your life better than you can—so why not start now?

How to Plan and Enjoy a Date With Yourself

Taking yourself on a date is a wonderful way to practice self-love, unwind, and reconnect with yourself. Here are some simple yet effective steps to make the most out of your solo date:

1. Plan a Date Time

Choose a specific day and time that works best for you. Treat this as a commitment—just as you would if you were meeting someone else. Setting aside uninterrupted time ensures you can be fully present and enjoy the experience.

2. Decide Where You’re Going or What You’ll Do

Think of activities or places that excite you. Whether it’s dining at your favorite restaurant, exploring a museum, enjoying a movie, or simply reading in a cozy café, pick something that feels special. (Tip: Approach your solo date with the same enthusiasm you would if someone else were treating you!)

3. Before the Date

Prepare for your outing. Dress up if it makes you feel good, or keep it casual if that’s your vibe. Planning ahead removes unnecessary stress and allows you to focus on enjoying your time.

4. During the Date

Be mindful and present. Savor the food, enjoy the activity, and embrace the moment. Leave behind distractions, like excessive phone use, and focus on how this time nurtures your well-being.

5. After the Date

When you get home and you want more from your date with yourself- Take it a step further- Make love to yourself. Don't do it simply for a climax. Do it to get to know your body and explore what you've never done like being present in pleasing yourself and learning more about your erogenous zones. Enjoy your body, and your personal time with you; and enjoy being in the skin your in.The next day Reflect on your experience. What did you enjoy most? How did it make you feel? Celebrating the time you spend with yourself is an important part of self-care, so take a moment to appreciate the effort you’ve put into prioritizing yourself.

Remember, dating yourself is not just about filling time—it’s about building a strong relationship with yourself. The better you know and love yourself, the more confident and fulfilled you’ll feel in every aspect of life. The best part of it all is once you learn how to love you- you'll never allow someone else to love you in a way that doesn't align with the love you show yourself! 

Romance Yourself: The Journey to Self-Love

It’s time to stop seeking love and romance solely from others and start cultivating self-love by romancing ourselves. Instead of endlessly searching for validation or affection outside, we can turn inward and treat ourselves as we would someone we genuinely admire and care for. I'm not referring to abstract, hypothetical "dating yourself" concepts. I'm speaking of dating yourself as you would another person. With this statement in mind: Date yourself the way you would want someone else to date you! This is about intentionally making time for yourself, showing kindness, practicing patience, showing yourself grace, loving your imperfections just as much as you love your perfections and creating moments of joy, just as you would when dating someone special. With this mindset, you nurture a deeper connection with yourself, discover your worth, and build a fulfilling relationship that starts from within. Also review our 14 day water challenge. Self- improvement & lifestyle challenges part:2 Drink a gallon of water for 14 days!

Join the 30-Day Date Yourself Challenge!

If you are bold enough to accept the challenge I would love to be part of your 30-Day Date Yourself Challenge! As a life coach, my passion is for helping others and watching them thrive with genuine love and care in the works that I do. inspiring others to be to be the best version of themselves aligns beautifully with the my purpose. So Please don’t hesitate to reach out and let me know how the experience goes. Use the form below to send me an email—I’d love to hear how the challenge is helping you and the people you touch through your work!

Sincerely, A. Lancaster (life coach & friend)